Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Foolish Games

"You're very good at a game I don't want to play. So, I'm done here. But you better step away from the mirror long enough to check the damage that will always be right behind you." (2007, HSM 2)

I sit here now, extremely upset. The person I am angry with sits in this room, failing to realize what they did wrong. Granted, it's not all their fault, but they are refusing to see their part in the grief that I am feeling at this moment. This person never puts me first, never values the special person I am. I feel constantly put down by them and their constant criticism. I am never smart enough, pretty enough, fun enough, or interesting enough for them. They break me down. Sometimes I wonder if they even like me at all, because most of the time I really don't feel it. I'm sure you are wondering why I put up with this person and don't kick them to the curb.

Well, because it's me.

Once again, I have put myself in a position where I have ended up being a fool. Yes, it is good to put your trust in people, but when someone proves they are not worthy of trust through their actions, then it is only logically to retract that trust and distance yourself from that person. It would only be dumb to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. That is lunacy, right? Or, at the very least, the actions of a very desperate and sad individual.

But, that's what I did.

Now I crawl away to cower in the corner and lick my wounds, knowing very well that it's my own fault that I allowed myself to get wounded so badly. I would love to just be pissed at the person who betrayed me, but I in essence handed that person a gun and stood in front of the target and expected them not to aim it at me again. I am the fool. That is what I need to come to terms with. Giving someone the opportunity to hurt me not once, not twice, but three times. I am smarter than that. I deserve better than that.

There are people in this world who will lie and hide things, and their will be people who aide them and help them and even praise them for their deeds. People will stoop to levels that I will never understand for momentary satisfaction or for something as petty as bragging rights. Some people will even take something pure like love or trust and toss it aside like it is an old, boring toy. These people will always exist, and all the rest of us will constantly encounter these people.

The key, though, is to recognize that being treated like that by those people isn't acceptable, and closing the door. Perhaps there will be embarrassment, but their will still be the ability to hold your head high with class and dignity because you didn't sink to that level and because you recognized that you deserve better. It's hard to believe, but I sincerely think it is better to have been cheated on or lied to than to have been a party to cheating or lying to someone unknowing.

I deserve better.

Jen

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